Why do people help other people?
Do they feel that karma will reward them? Do they get off on the appreciation from the other person? Do they get off on the "Iapos;m better than you because I feed/cloth/visit the poor/elderly" thing? Do they feel a need to validate their livesapos; value through some stranger?
I donapos;t understand it, yet Iapos;ve had a desire to do it recently. My motivation feels like "Maybe if I help some people, this void in my soul will go away." It looks like EVERYTHING is self motivated. If you can think of an instance where it isnapos;t, then please tell me so.
Maybe I can go do some habitat for humanity stuff.
Is helping people worth it when youapos;re doing it for yourself? Iapos;ve asked people in person and online "Why do you want to be a doctor?" and in response itapos;s always some variant of "To help people", but I never ask WHY they want to help people, or what motivates them to do so. I just accept it and move on.
Iapos;ve gone into it a little with JJ about an idea she had, and I crushed it. I think she literally said "Thanks for destroying my dream" but I think Iapos;m remembering it wrong. Basically she said that she wanted to go to china and help orphans (I believe she said that many are girls, because many chinese couples want a boy instead with their one child policy. Also, I would think farmers want boys to help them work). I questioned the motivation, because it seemed irrelevant whom you help, as long as you help. She became defensive, but could not come up with what I viewed as a valid arguement. Why travel half way around the world to help a group of people, when you can help people where you are? I viewed it as self-motivation; it looked like a status gaining move to me. It looked like a way to make herself feel superior to other doctors. Her collegues would say "Oh yeah, I interned at such and such." "Mmhmm, well I went to the prostigious place called blah blah blah. *smirk*" The JJ would say "Well thatapos;s nice. I went to china and helped orphans who were abandoned by their families. Their little hearts were broken, but... *bites her bottom lip* we were able to mend them, teach them, and give some of them new families who love and cherish them when no one else would." Theyapos;d all be awe struck, and in her mind sheapos;d say "SUCK IT, BITCHES"
Iapos;m exagerating of course, but Iapos;m sure you catch my meaning.
Should I really ask them why they want to help people? What if I make them think they are selfish people and they end up quitting, and never helping anyone? Thatapos;d be a net loss, and not useful. Nah. I wonapos;t. That would only hurt people, and I have no desire to hurt anyone who doesnapos;t have it coming.
What if the details of WHY you want to help people donapos;t matter? Yes. That is a nicer way of putting it. It doesnapos;t matter WHY you help people, just THAT you help people.
Why do you want to help people? Because I like to. Because I want to. Because I feel like it. Because I can.
Just Because.
Because because because because becaaaaaause.... BECAUSE OF THE WONDERFUL THINGS HE DOES DO Dee-doodily do Ch Weapos;re off to see the wizard the wonderful wizard of Oooooooz
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